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Saturday, May 16, 2015

Bits & Pieces 4


Tu Mera Hero!  (You are My Hero)

Someone I know is all set to tie the knot with her intimidating and macho boyfriend very soon. This girl has been through all his temper tantrums and slaps, bouts of extreme possessiveness but still, like a dim-wit follower of a local pseudo god man, she is hell bent on marrying the boy who she  believes, is a hero and will make her life a secure heaven. Anyways, it is just one story amongst the millions where girls easily or rather willingly marry boys who are involved in brawls and even heinous crimes like rapes. The basic feeling that runs deep down is the point of ‘safety’ which, to most girls, means only physical strength and a dominating personality. 


I feel such girls themselves lack confidence in their own selves or maybe they are too insecure and shudder at the very thought of a big bad world out there that gets them naturally and mindlessly attracted to men having such terrifying personalities. Surprisingly, they are often happy in facing physical abuse and severe excoriations all their lives and barter dignity for a sense of safety.

I discussed this with my friend and she gave me a solid suggestion for their wedding gift that made me laugh my ribs out! “Why don’t you gift her a year’s supply of Volini!”
Good one!
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Didi! (Elder Sister)

On One sleepy afternoon, a few days back, two cute little boys rang my doorbell. I answered from inside and one said ‘Aunty, ball aa gai hai, please de do’ (Aunty, please return our ball) but before I could utter a syllable, another one promptly interrupted in somewhat hushed tone and said ‘Pagal, Aunty bolega to nai milegi, didi bol’ (Dumbo, she won’t return if you’ll call her aunty, instead call her didi). And both cried in unison ‘Didi…didi please ball de do’ and honestly, I could not stop giggling for an hour or so! Such instances of pure innocence can make one smile even after years pass by.

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Blossoms!

I have of late grown quite fond of flowers and have even memorized the names of various types with much interest. I can name them like kids can tell you alphabet table- excitedly, in a single breath! Blossoms add a dash of color and style in other wise wilted and annoying days of scorching summers. I easily identified a wild flower growing in my neighbor’s garden. It was a white petunia (in pic) and for some reason seemed to me like an infant, too cute to avoid! There is another plant called ‘Chinese Lantern’ (in pic below) that has a box like net that covers the fruit and looks beautiful in fiery orange! Now, I have added to my ‘to-do’ list this task of buying new flower-plants from nearby nursery and placing them in beautiful pots (gamla) that are easily available in the markets now. I have plants in plastic pots but still I feel earthen ones are better. I prefer flowers in pots because of the ease in carrying and also you can arrange and place them as and where you wish, unlike rooted ones.


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33 comments:

  1. AnonymousMay 16, 2015

    I think all of you friends should have a chat with the friend getting married... Maybe she is being pressurized and if she opens uoto you, then you might actually save her from a lifetime trauma... But do so gently...

    Even I don't like the idea of making everyone my aunty... I prefer 'Miss' or 'Madam'... Or more likely just don't say anything and jump to the concern...

    Even I love knowing the names of flowers (Hi5 on that) :-D And then I show it off in front of people :-P

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    1. Hi Rupasi

      She is way too happy for this match! Love is blind :)

      They were little kids, full of innocence!

      Hi 5!

      :)

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  2. I completely relate with the second post!!! hahaha frequent occurrence !!

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  3. Great bits and pieces. Flowers are everything, thanks for sharing!

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    1. Hi blogoratti

      Thanks a lot! I am happy you liked them :D

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  4. Nice one. Those 2 boys are not innocent. I would call them "street smart".

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    1. Hi SG

      Thanks! You have a point too!

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  5. What an enjoyable post. The stories are very well told.

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    1. Hi Onkar

      Thanks a lot! I am happy you enjoyed the post!

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  6. Nice pieces Ankita. I am new to your blog but enjoyed it. Seems like I should read your blog more often.

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    1. Hi Alka

      Thanks a lot! Thanks, do keep coming :)

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  7. Nice pieces Ankita. I am new to your blog but I enjoyed it and it seems I should hop in here more often.

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  8. I love being surrounded by flowers and plants. Always makes me feel better. I hope your friend will change her mind before the wedding!

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    1. Hi Katrin

      yes, I love plants too! Hope so :)

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  9. The 2nd one made me laugh :D

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  10. Nice bits and pieces..second one happens with everybody:)..my family would say so many times how can you tolerate a 30 yr old calling you aunty when you yourself are 35..but I nevr minded, they nevr mattered to me:)

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  11. I loved every bit and piece. The second one was way too awesome :D

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  12. Good post, aunty. :P

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  13. Hahaha.. The Aunty one was really good.. I really laughed out loud!
    Well written Ankita.. :)

    Cheers

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    1. Hi Geetika

      heheh! ya, that was really funny and memorable too!

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  14. Aunty story is really funny.. :P I can relate to it..

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  15. Nice ones Ankita... Loved the shape of Chinese Lantern. It looks like a lantern indeed...
    Loved the 1st story and the perspective you have shared.

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    1. Hi Loco

      Thank you! Ya, CL plant is really very appealing :)

      Thanks!

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  16. I think these are the mistakes girls make.. The consequence of such marriage is inflicted upon the children supposingly the girl continues to endure the atrocities...

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    1. Hi Ph_

      yes, very true, as they say, love is blind. You have a valid point here.

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