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Tuesday, March 10, 2015

A Bold Step

Sometimes destiny brings us on crossroads, throwing at us the task of making difficult choices as I found myself years ago. However, I am glad I chose the right path and I do not regret my decision at all. At times you have to take decisions even in such daily mundane matters which are considered too petty to be thought of even second time.

Saving you all the mystery, let me get straight to the point. Many years back, I went on a holiday with my cousins and, contrary to my expectations, it turned out to be a nightmare because two of my younger cousins made sure that I did not enjoy it even for a moment. Their conduct was an appalling demonstration of rudeness and an extremely poor upbringing. While the parents of one were literally ashamed on his audacity, another’s mother who too had come along and ironically is into teaching, did not bother and at times even felt proud of the boldness of her maniac son.

They not only misbehaved (verbally) with me but also passed nasty jibes about my paternal relatives. When I got to know the cause of this behavior, I was shocked at their immaturity. They simply seemed to enjoy the ‘fun’ of teasing. When I complained to their parents, I was told to ignore their taunts as they were just a bit ‘boyish’ and ‘juvenile’ (they were in high school that time while I was in college), and also that being a girl, I shouldn’t take such matters to heart as ‘boys are like that only’. This literally made my blood boil as I had never faced such discrimination in my own family. Back home, I told the entire thing to my mother who gave a piece of her mind to the accompanying elder relatives, making them feel ashamed of themselves. Even then, the mother of the other younger cousin was as shameless as ever and did not feel anything wrong about her son’s behavior.

I then decided to kick out such crap from my life. I consider my life to be my own canvas and nobody except me will decide what colors will be splashed over it. I brushed aside all the shades of dark; I severed all ties with them even at the risk of being tagged as rude, unruly and selfish, for I believe when there is no respect and courtesy in relationships, they must be dissolved and one should mingle only with people who enrich his/her life. There is no point carrying on such relationships just for the sake of it, even at the cost of your own peace of mind.

Even though, after many years one of them apologized several times, I simply did not bother and it is highly unlikely that I’ll do so in future. I chose my self-respect and dignity over rotten relationships even though I was chided for my decision by few other relatives who thought that a girl should always be tolerant, forgiving and submissive. I am proud of what I have done for living my life positively. Throwing out dirt is no crime; rather it is something that must be done to #StartANewLife!


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24 comments:

  1. I am glad that you did...
    Some brilliant thoughts there!

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    1. Hi Loco

      yes, they deserved it and left me with no other option. Thanks a lot dear :)

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  2. I'm glad too! This is a lesson that many of us have to learn.

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  3. It’s better to keep away from those acts we don’t like or isn’t considering sensible... I too have cousins whom I don’t know how to say and so was their behaviour used to be once as kids. Although things were different now and their characters are good enough, there used to a time i hate quite and also wanted to brake...
    No doubt the choice is our, and we should decided who should stay or not.

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    1. Hi Jeevan

      yes, the ultimate choice is always in our hands and I decided to kick both of them out. :)

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  4. wonderful lesson for everyone !

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  5. You did the right thing. At the same time, if the apology (after many years) is sincere, I would give him one more chance. Just only one. That is all.

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    1. Hi SG

      Thanks a lot! I know their basic nature, they do not deserve any chance.

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  6. I have some stupid relatives as well. :) And i am glad that I have nothing to do with them anymore. :)

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    1. Hi Katrin

      Same pinch, you can feel my irritation

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  7. Good decision. Sometimes it is necessary to cut people off.

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    1. Hi Red

      Thanks a lot! yes, it becomes inevitable.

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  8. Ankita Ji thanks for visit on my blog. My blog is in Hindi but very interesting. Thanks once again.

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    1. Hi Kahkashan Ji

      thank you :)

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    1. Hi Bikram

      And thanks a lot to you!! :D

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  10. We do have to be strong in such cases. Glad you did, Ankita!
    I dealt similarly with some people too :) Great minds!
    More power to us!

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    1. Hi Anita

      yes, such idiots deserve a kick. yeah! :)

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  11. Very brave and revolutionary decision. Sometimes tough and ruthless decisions help us discard needless baggage.

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    1. Hello Sir,

      Thanks a lot. I became absolutely necessary to kick them out of my life.
      yes, true

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  12. Appalling ....good that you took a firm decision.

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    1. Hi Vanderloost

      yes, I was shocked at their poor upbringing. Thanks.

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