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Tuesday, December 15, 2009

YE SHADI KYON NAHIN HO SAKTI????

While discussing random things with one of my close friends, we were struck on a point that got us into a thinking mode. We really could not find an exact explanation for it.

We Indians are world famous for adapting to changes and moving on with life. Although our crisis management system literally sucks big time, still we have that spirit to keep the show going on and on. We adapt beautifully to the culture and the customs of other countries. We have inbuilt shock absorbers, whenever we have to adapt to something new. We quickly adapt to a new country, tastes, habits, customs and climate, we are willing to mould our generations according to that place and honestly that’s commendable. But the point is, while we are so very good at welcoming change, why do we detest inter-caste, inter-region and inter-religion marriages within our own country? NRI show off their foreigner wives like a gold medal, but why do we hesitate in supporting inter-region or inter-caste couples who want to marry?

We still kill lovers in the name of honor just because they eloped to get married but suddenly get selective dementia and heartily welcome a bahu (daughter-in-law) from a free and forward western society. We use, ‘jati’, ‘gotra’, ‘nakshatras’ and all that jargon for denying approval to a girl from another region but same religion or vice versa. I have seen ladies cribbing about how they are living on antidepressants, for their bahus come from other regions of India; in fact the same aunties would have been glowing out of joy like a 1000 watt bulb if that very bahu happened to be a foreigner. We have many problems adjusting to an Indian bahu but feel innate satisfaction in moulding our habits and lifestyle according to a firangi.

One of my distant cousins married an American girl years ago but still their whole family is so proud of this fact as if their son has got a noble prize. The very same family treats another bahu from different Indian caste as a complete outsider. That is indeed sad.

Why do we still bow down to gori chamdi?????

22 comments:

  1. Thoughtful post... Human beings are the greatest hypocrites to walk this earth...! Until they start being true to themselves, incidents like bowing to 'gori chamdi' would go on !!!

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  2. hii Prashant

    thankxx buddy!

    yes,I agree.its shameful yaar..

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  3. Very thoughtful post.
    White skin doesn't necessarily mean white heart. And those who adore gori skin are generally black in their heart.

    I wish a world where there is only one parameter for measurement, i.e Degree of Humaneness.

    Now, I can go on writing but i'll stop here. :)

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  4. hii Sunil

    thanks a ton buddy!
    ya I agree fully and I wish for such a world too.. we are all same, but still have divided ourselves.

    heheh! go on, its free!
    ;D

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  5. Dude...i must say... Kundali Milan... is also one major stupid thing which plays an important role these alliances....will get back to you regarding more comments...

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  6. hi Sachin!
    haan yaar! some pple have firm belief in kundalis and all that

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  7. Yeah, we still don't like Inter-caste/religion marriages. And yeah, don't forget Inter-Sex as well ;)

    But I don't think getting married to a foreigner will be liked in normal Indian family!

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  8. hypocrisy is engrained in our genome. Going abroad on an official trip is considered an acheivement by many, while managing to dil jeetofy a phirangi is equivalent to an olympic medal, anything phirangi is great. Period. Any number of degrees and education can educate some people.

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  9. hii Abhinav

    hehehe! yaa! ;D

    ya but I think most Indian families feel proud to have a 'firangi' bahu :)

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  10. hii UA

    ya, I agree, we are are basically dual faces pple.

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  11. Hi AS,

    Thumbs up!! :)

    Dr. Pranjal Sharma

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  12. hii Pranjal :)

    thanks a ton buddy!

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  13. thought provoking post and excellent pic

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  14. hii sm

    welcome to my blog :)

    thanks a lot!

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  15. its our inferiority complex which makes us respect any one fair complexioned.

    Personally I think the main problem comes with the eating habits and life style,like i never wanted a non vegetarian DIL in my house, as I cant even eat in the bowl, egg has been boiled.
    A girl coming from a similar back ground gels with the family easily.

    In our circle even gori chamdi is not like,but south north marriages are all doing well.

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  16. well this could be true...although I have never come across any guy whom i know getting married to a firang...but this was a very nice post...keep it up!

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  17. hii Antaraman
    welcome to my blog :)

    yups, the very root of all this behavior is our own inferiority complex that has seeped into our systems now.

    I am a pure veggie too! same pinch!
    :)

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  19. hii Anonymous
    thanks a lot!
    keep coming :)

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  20. dis is the true fact.... n itzz more of like... sudha murthy's " DOLLAR BAHU"..... though the bahu is nt firangi....

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  21. hii Neha

    yes, thanks :)

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